oh anon i’m afraid I don’t have much. It’s a topic that a lot of people shy away from, I think, especially in the Christian community.
Also, when you ask for theology references, you must be more specific. Christian theology? Judaism? Islam? something that encompasses all of Abrahamic theology (a wide and various scope)? Eastern religions (which I fully admit I know almost nothing about, outside of general overviews I’ve learned in religious studies courses)
Check out the works of Marcella Althaus-Reid, she was an Argentinian theologian who combined the ideas of liberation theology, feminism, and queer theory. She’s credited with “queering theology”, and she wrote a number of books and contributed to several journals. I would start with The Sexual Theologian: A Primer in Radical Sex and Queer Theology, if you can find it. She said:
The excessiveness of our hungry lives: our hunger for food, hunger for the touch of other bodies, for love and for God… Only in the longing for a world of economic and sexual justice together, and not subordinated to one another, can the encounter with the divine take place. But this is an encounter to be found at the crossroads of desire, when one dares to leave the ideological order of the heterosexual pervasive normative. This is an encounter with indecency, and with the indecency of God and Christianity.″
I also know at one point The Harvard Divinity School taught a course on Queer Theology, sigh.